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Parenting Teenagers

A conversation log, family non-negotiables, a freedoms map and curfew deal, weekly time together, and calm plans for parties, alcohol, drugs, broken trust and a teen who is not home.

Free · Mac (Apple silicon) and Windows · v1.0.0 · Other platforms

Then open the Marketplace in the app, search for Parenting Teenagers, and click Install. It goes into your own files, and works offline from then on.

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👨‍👩‍👧 Family & Parenting

Parenting Teenagers

Staying connected with teenagers through moods, independence, curfews, friendships and risky choices while keeping communication open.

  1. Two-week conversation log with your teenager
  2. Family non-negotiables for the teenage years
  3. Freedoms by age map from thirteen to eighteen
  4. Curfew and going-out agreement
  5. No-questions-asked rescue code word
  6. Friends and their parents contact list
  7. Home alone rules from an afternoon to overnight
  8. Bedroom and phone privacy agreement
  9. How the teenage brain handles risk and reward
  10. Proportionate consequences for broken agreements
  11. Weekly one-to-one side-by-side time
  12. Three shared family meals a week
  13. Sunday week-ahead logistics chat
  14. Question-free decompression after school
  15. Monthly freedoms and trust review
  16. Quarterly family agreement review
  17. Late-night lift rota with other parents
  18. Noticing and naming what they do well
  19. Your own support as the parent of a teenager
  20. School-night sleep routine for a teenager
  21. Listening without fixing or lecturing
  22. Questions teenagers will actually answer
  23. Staying calm when a teenager pushes your buttons
  24. Collaborative problem solving for recurring clashes
  25. Honest talks about alcohol and parties
  26. Talking about vaping, cannabis and other drugs
  27. First relationships, house rules and healthy signs
  28. Repair after a row, including your own apology
  29. House party rules for hosting and attending
  30. Cutting nagging down to one reminder
  31. Location sharing agreement with an end date
  32. Hair, piercings and tattoos decisions
  33. Sleepover and staying-over rules
  34. Part-time job or volunteering hours decision
  35. Their first big party night plan
  36. First music festival or gig without parents
  37. First holiday with friends, no adults
  38. Prom or leavers' ball plan
  39. A family holiday a teenager will want to join
  40. Aligning teen rules across two homes
  41. Step-parenting a teenager without forcing closeness
  42. Covering late nights as a single parent of a teen
  43. Working parents and the after-school hours
  44. Supporting an LGBTQ+ teen after coming out
  45. Different freedoms for a teen and younger siblings
  46. Response plan when you find alcohol, vapes or drugs
  47. Escalation plan when a teen is not home
  48. Rebuilding trust after a serious lie
  49. Worrying friendships and signs of exploitation
  50. Family mediation when rows become constant

Where it starts.

Each project arrives with its purpose, milestones and first tasks written out. Here is how the first three read.

Two-week conversation log with your teenager

Most parents of teenagers feel they talk all the time, yet a log usually shows that nine in ten exchanges are reminders, logistics or corrections. Writing down every conversation longer than a minute for fourteen days, with where it happened, who started it and how it ended, shows when your teen actually opens up and what shuts them down. Every later project in this area works better with that picture in hand.

First tasks

  • Set up a log with columns for time, place, topic, opener and ending
  • Log every exchange with your teen longer than a minute for fourteen days
  • Circle the places and times where your teen talked most
  • Write down the three things you said that most often ended a conversation

Family non-negotiables for the teenage years

Teenagers push on every rule at once, and parents who defend twenty rules equally end up defending none. Agreeing between the adults on four to six genuine non-negotiables, typically safety, honesty about where they are, school attendance and respect in the house, frees you to be flexible on everything else. The short list becomes the thing you never bargain over and the reason you can say yes more often.

First tasks

  • Write down every house rule currently in force, however small
  • Sort each rule into non-negotiable, negotiable or drop with the other parent
  • Cut the non-negotiable list to six or fewer and word each in one sentence
  • Explain the list and the reasons to your teen over a meal
  • Reread the non-negotiables together at the start of each school year @recurring(yearly)

Freedoms by age map from thirteen to eighteen

Arguments about freedom are often arguments about timing: a fourteen-year-old who hears no with no date attached hears never. A map that sets out roughly when things like travelling alone on public transport, staying out after dark, a later curfew, an unsupervised trip or a part-time job become possible gives your teen a visible path. It also stops each request being decided from scratch in the heat of the moment.

First tasks

  • List every freedom your teen has asked for in the last six months
  • Add the freedoms likely to come up before they turn eighteen
  • Give each freedom a rough age and the track record that earns it
  • Go through the map with your teen and write in the changes you accept
  • Review the freedoms map together on their birthday @recurring(yearly)

Make it yours.

Install Parenting Teenagers, then tell Aurum the date you're aiming for. It checks whether the plan fits the weeks you actually have.

Free · Mac (Apple silicon) and Windows · v1.0.0 · Other platforms

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